Kimberly Geraldino May 11, 2020
English Profiel
Class 21001
Ms. Weyn
Fatherhood

On a cold October day, Remijo Geraldino, my father, began his first official 101 parenting lesson as a father of three. This came as a complete surprise for many since, by this time, he was already a father to six older kids, his first daughter was thirty-five by the time Geraldino stepped up to be an official parenting father. My father born and raised in the Dominican Republic and has always been a very hardworking, responsible, loving individual but did not have the same luck with been a father. In contrast, he has many kids, and they very much all have deep love and respect for him, they all seem to be aware of his unique way of the fatherhood of not been there. Remijo came to the United States to offer his kids a better life at the age of 40. He immediately got a job as a truck driver since that was his first job back in his homeland, he provided shelter, food, and education to all his kids and was more than understanding to all. To understand why all his kids love him and respect him even though he was not necessarily a big part of their childhood, we have to comprehend that this forms a significant part of his identity and who he really is as a person.
Remijo Geraldino didn’t really understand what taking care of a child meant for any of his kids because he was used to leaving that responsibility to the mother of the child. In October of 2010, when my two siblings and I arrived in the United States, he was completely unaware that his whole parenting strategy would change. This was due to what Remijo call one major hard decision that completely changes him which was when his wife, mother of my two sibling, told him he has to pick between “your daughter or me and your two kid” and he chooses me, not because he didn’t love his two other children but because he felt that I needed him the most since my mother wasn’t in the state and he wanted to make sure I continue taking advantage of the U.S education which is way more advanced than his homeland. While choosing me, he not only gave away the chance of living with his life and two of his kids, but he also accepted his first responsibility of being a single parent to the opposite sex, a girl. While raising a girl as the opposite sex would be a lot to learn already, what was harder was raising a a children on his own since that was completely new to him. Remijo described the rising as a roller coaster ride. The first obstacle he was faced was my education. He described this as I had a 0 level education and needed to come home from work and sit for hours and hours explaining to me the multiplication table of 1. He moved on to one of the hardest parts of raising me, which was when he left me home alone, and the woman from downstairs called the police on him because me, his daughter, was dancing and disturbing her. The State told my dad I was going to foster care, and there would be a whole investigation. My father described this as a year filled with questions and unknowing of the events surrounding him and me. He moves on to explain that as a male he didn’t know much of how he would explain permanent actions to me for example menstruation, the adult talk, shaving or how to do my hair, nail or anything else related, but at it given time he was able to teach himself enough to teach me. He would ask other females for advice since he wanted to understand before teaching me entirely. He tried to ultimately take responsibility for me and guess what fatherhood was actually about. He dedicated his time to make sure I understood how important education was and that getting married was not a way out of the financial crisis, he also devoted his time to mean not just as a father, but as a friend too, he wanted me to know how important friendship was and that I could trust him whenever i was curious about any subject, finally, he explains to I was one of hi bigger lesson because I showed him the path to fatherhood that he had completely mistaken for giving birth.

In conclusion, remijo geraldino describes his early fatherhood a non existing because it wasn't until he had to raise a child as a single parent that he came to realize that he was just a sperm, a true father is the one that is there for their children and shows them love. At first, all my siblings were jealous of the love my dad would invest in me and then they quickly realized that I showed him how to be a father and that each year he would not only become a better father to them and to me but a better person overall and a great model figure. Remijo geraldino intention was also good toward each and every one of his kids, but he won't put in the position to learn how to be a father but once he realizes he quickly gave and spread that fatherly love that each of his kid graves so much, and that him without knowing grave himself as well. He describes this as one of his biggest, most beautiful lessons he learned because it filled his heart of love and compassion for what he admirer, and he also completely changed himself he now describes himself and is called the best father in the whole full world.